Is it ok to buy baby stuff before your BFP?

Is it ok to buy baby stuff before your BFP?

Let's talk about something a lot of women have done. Hand on heart, I have. Is it okay to buy baby things before you have even fallen pregnant? Let's dig right in. We like to think ahead If you're like most women, you have probably found yourself wondering what your wedding will be like years before you even met your husband. And sometimes we will have  ideas about what our children will be like before they are even conceived. Guys do too by the way. When I met my husband, he was dead set that his son would be called Clyde. Which is not an incredibly popular name in Australia. It's a bit old-fashioned, one of those grandpa-chic names making a comeback. The only problem is: I'm from a German-speaking background, and…
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Long post – My BFP

Long post – My BFP

This is the story of my big fat positive Christmas miracle. As I write this, it has been a year almost to the day. We were at the third IVF clinic of our “IVF career”, the most expensive in our town. It had a long waiting list and we ended up waiting for over three months for the specialist to even see us. I was on the brink of giving up on the idea of going through IVF. I was so scared. What if the minor administrative glitch earlier in the day had been a “sign” that it just wasn’t meant to be? What if there was a mix up and we ended up with someone else’s baby? What if we would end up having a child, but it would…
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How to deal with injection fatigue during IVF

How to deal with injection fatigue during IVF

As if there wasn’t enough to dislike about injections already. They sting, sometimes bruise, clog up your fridge and require you to set alarms and plan your life around them for several weeks. And then there is the state of injection fatigue. Injection fatigue is more than minor physical discomfort. It is that moment when you start to feel like a human pin cushion. Broken, deficient, unworthy, certainly not feminine or attractive. I had a bad case of injection fatigue on my last cycle. It didn’t help that my Gonal-F was low and I had to use up the old syringe, open a new one for the remainder, then do another injection. Followed by blood work and, finally, the trigger shot. Five needles in 24 hours were enough for me.…
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What is it like to be an IVF baby?

What is it like to be an IVF baby?

What is it like to be an IVF baby? Recently I have been wondering whether to tell my son that he was conceived through IVF. Would he even want to know? How and when would it be appropriate to broach the topic? So I did what Lena always does. I tried to do some research. Alas, I couldn’t find much. You’d think that some of the five million IVF babies in the world would have started a conversation about it. But if they did, I couldn’t find it. Fortuitously, though, Louise Joy Brown, the world’s first IVF baby, has just published her autobiography. I had to get it. And I'm glad I did. It is a great read. Louise includes a glimpse into the worldwide media frenzy that preceeded her…
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Why my bad HSG was a blessing in disguise

Why my bad HSG was a blessing in disguise

Sigh. My first IVF clinic. Pretty much from the get go I had a bit of a funny gut feel about it. But I couldn't quite put my finger on it. I wasn't really sure how much of it was the clinic, and how much  just my general apprehension towards having to go through IVF. Things came to a head when I had to undergo an examination called hysterosalpingogram, or HSG, to check that my tubes weren't blocked. HSG involves a doctor putting dye up your uterus and, while watching on ultrasound, making sure that the die goes up your Fallopian tubes. It didn't sound too painful, but they put me under general anaesthesia anyway. I woke up in excruciating pain - and to a bad diagnosis. The doctor had…
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What are my chances of getting pregnant on my very first IVF cycle?

What are my chances of getting pregnant on my very first IVF cycle?

This question comes up so often! It brought out the nerd in me. I trawled through tonnes of data so you don’t have to. And here’s what I found.   The bad news? Neither the US nor the UK track this kind of data. You see, the problem is this: to know how likely someone is to fall pregnant on their first or second or hundredth cycle, we have to keep track of how many cycles everyone has done. And that’s not easy, apparently. But here’s the good news: Firstly, success rates are comparable the world over. The top clinics in Europe, the US, and Asia are mostly on par. And secondly, the helpful regulators in a land-down-under managed to keep track of everyone. It may have helped that there…
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Is an IVF pregnancy automatically high risk?

Is an IVF pregnancy automatically high risk?

Spoiler alert: the short answer is ‘no’, but you may wish it was.   Why you may feel this way Whether it took you one cycle or a hundred rounds of IVF to fall pregnant, it will likely feel like you have gone to hell and back. Most IVF clinics will keep a close watch on you until the first ultrasound. I call this the ‘seven-week-wait’, because that first ultrasound is often performed at seven weeks’ gestation (that is when you are seven weeks pregnant, or about three weeks after your first blood pregnancy test). You may get to do regular bloods (beta tests) to check that your levels of hCG (human chorionic gonadotropin, the ‘pregnancy hormone’) are rising nicely. You will likely continue with luteal support (via progesterone pessaries…
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Welcome!

Welcome!

Trying to conceive through IVF can feel scary, overwhelming and above all: lonely. I know, I’ve been there. I'll never forget the dead silence hanging over the busiest of waiting rooms. Everyone staring at the floor, wishing themselves away. It doesn’t have to be this way! MyFertilityHub is here to support you every step of the way. From how to choose a clinic, to mastering the dreaded two-week-wait, I've got you covered with practical tips from someone who's been through IVF themselves. Every Monday, I send out “Lena’s letters”, which are chock-a-block with the latest goss about what is happening in the big wide world of IVF. They’re a fun, relevant, easy read - so don't miss them! [convertkit form=5007300] I'm active in a few IVF Support groups (as well…
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How to keep romance alive during IVF treatment

IVF treatment can be incredibly stressful and it can really take a toll on your relationship - if you let it. But it is possible to keep the romance alive while undergoing treatment. Here are my top three tips on how to do just that. https://youtu.be/JFE3680gudg     Set a regular date night Make it something really simple, affordable and non-negotiable. My husband and I made it movie night Tuesdays. The cinemas in our town tend to have really affordable prices on Tuesdays. Sometimes there wasn't anything on that we desperately wanted to see but we would still go - date nights were non-negotiable. Watching a movie together may not sound like the most romantic thing to do, but it allowed us to share an experience that was unrelated to IVF…
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The problem with online forums

Online forums can be a great source of information and support while going through IVF. But they come with their own unique risks. [embed]https://youtu.be/N5au2ZQXNa0[/embed]   The benefits Online forums allow you to seek out people who are going through the same thing as you. How many women do you know in real life who have done IVF and are openly talking about it? Probably not too many. It is so much easier to find a group to join online. You may even find 'cycle buddies' who are commencing their cycle on the same day as you. This can really help break the feelings of isolation and loneliness. Many forums offer virtual anonymity which can be a real bonus. You may find yourself sharing things you would not feel comfortable discussing in…
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